Relationships consist all of existence, and whether or not we are aware of this, everyone and everything is bound together in an intricate network. The following piece is a series of metaphorical expressions that have striking similarities between gardens and relationships. I give credit for the format used here, to Jesus of Nazareth. Like his parables, this story provides a basis for understanding by using comparison as the tool to enable the reader to easily identify and comprehend the concepts within. Please note that the title I used was inspired by the American author John Steinbeck and his 1937 novel "Of Mice and Men." Therefore I give him the deserved recognition and credit for my title.
A relationship being established is like unto a patch of earth being turned over for the preparation of a garden. Just as life provides the opportunities for relationships to form, such is the same when the seeds are sown in the soil. In order for gardens to be fruitful, they must be maintained throughout their development. Indeed, it is likewise for new-found relationships. Maintenance depends upon the mutual understanding of responsibility, which is shared by all who are involved. Yet if anyone becomes slack in their share of the chore, then gardens and relationships alike, will begin to suffer. Both become vulnerable to invasive and toxic elements (i.e. weeds = people). This is also the reason why both must have boundaries clearly established and mutually supported. The best defense for either is teamwork. Without that, both gardens and relationships will surely perish.
However, dangers posing a threat to the health and growth of gardens are not entirely external. Consider the fungus gnat; its larvae resides in the soil and feeds on the highly nutritious organic material within it, including the roots to your most precious vegetable plants. As an adult, they have the capability to transfer pathogens from a sick plant to a healthy one. That's not all; adult females can also lay up to 150 eggs and can hatch within four days! As a result, a proliferation of sick plants occurs and gardens can essentially die if not treated. The
same can be said in relationships as well. When individuals are
allowing negative, unhealthy, or toxic behaviors go unchecked, it
quickly turns into negligence and/or abuse. These are the signs that relationships are diseased, and must be addressed. If the disease continues to be allowed to thrive, then it will become the harbinger of
destruction for relationships.
Ironically, excessive efforts to maintain or trying to fix
something that's not needed, is as equally destructive as negligence. A classic example for gardens is the mistake of watering during the peak hours of sunlight or applying too much fertilizer, thereby resulting in damaging or killing crops altogether. In relationships, giving advice turns into demands, upholding boundaries becomes possessiveness or separation, and even attempts to "spice things up" can be fatal towards it. The most important element during the development of gardens and relationships is the active investment of genuine love. Without that, neither field or relationship can be truly enjoyed or productive to its highest potential. Besides, the quality of fruit yielded from both is always better when love is put into them.
- by Thomas Daltry











